One night your happy sleeper suddenly doesn't want the light off. Fear of the dark is very common in toddlers and preschoolers. It usually shows up as their imagination grows, often somewhere around two to three years old. The good news: it's a normal stage, and there's plenty you can do to help.
Why toddlers become afraid of the dark
As toddlers start to imagine and pretend, they can also imagine things that aren't there. Shadows look like shapes, noises seem bigger, and being alone in the dark feels different. Big changes, like a new room or a new sibling, can make it more likely.
Take the fear seriously
To your toddler, the fear is real. Instead of "There's nothing to be scared of", try "It feels scary when it's dark. I'm right here, and you're safe." Staying calm shows them there's nothing to worry about.
Keep a calm, predictable routine
A familiar bedtime routine makes nights feel safe. Keep the same steps in the same order every night, and avoid scary stories or shows before bed. Our toddler bedtime routine walks through it.
Use a dim, warm night light
A soft glow can make the room feel less scary without keeping them awake. Choose a warm tone and keep it dim. The Glow night light has a warm-toned glow and three brightness levels, so you can use the lowest setting overnight. It's cordless, and it belongs on a dresser, out of the crib or bed. More in the best night light color for sleep.
Make the dark fun during the day
- Play flashlight games or have a "starry night" story time before bed. The Orbit star projector puts stars on the ceiling, with the remote kept by an adult. Use it for winding down, then switch it off or dim it right down. Nobody should look into the light.
- Read books about the night and nocturnal animals.
- Build a blanket fort and read inside it.
Offer a comfort object
For toddlers over 12 months, a soft toy to cuddle can help them feel less alone. A big friend like the Waddle plush can "keep watch" from a shelf nearby. For babies under 12 months, the sleep space should stay empty.
Check in, briefly
Promise to check on them in a few minutes, and keep that promise. Short, calm check-ins help them trust that you're close, without turning bedtime into a long negotiation.
What to avoid
- Scary shows, games or stories near bedtime
- Teasing or dismissing the fear
- Bright lights, which can make it harder to fall asleep
If fears are severe, last a long time or affect daytime too, talk to your pediatrician.
Questions parents ask
At what age are toddlers afraid of the dark?
Often from around two to three years old, as imagination develops.
Should I leave the light on for my toddler?
A dim, warm night light is fine. Bright overhead lights can make it harder to sleep.
How long does fear of the dark last?
It varies. For many children it fades over months as they grow, with calm support.
See calm pieces for bedtime in our Nursery collection.
